A Better Life: Saving your relationship.


It will be a miracle if couples do not run into a few bumps in the road, we can get upset during the bumps, but it's the bumps that helps couples to have a better understanding of one another. I do have a few relationships, since I am still Single, I believe it is easy to derived that my previous relationships are pretty unsuccessful. Even so, I do try my best to make every single relationship works. In conclusion... The followings will only be applicable to couples not married. 

Good grief. Communication is one of the biggest factor in working/ successful relationship. This is also the best way to find out more about your partner. You may think that you know it all to your partner, but in every communication you can discover something else about him or her. People do change, what your partner may like now does not mean it will last forever. 
  1. Communicating through WhatsApp or Facebook Messenger or whatever Apps you are using, is not communication. Drop your phone, drop your text message. Ring your partner up, make an appointment with each other and talk. 
  2. I find it frustrating when someone I am talking to isn't listening to me, do you? So please, listen attentively to what your partner has to say. Don't doodle around or even check your phone. Assure your partner that you know what he or she is trying to say by nodding or even rephrasing what he or she says. 
  3. Let your partner finish up what he or she as to say. Don't interrupt, you may not agree to what he or she has got to tell you, but do refrain from interrupting. That can make things worst. 
Honestly, I do not agree that money is a big factor in relationship. I do know that Singapore has thousands or maybe billions of food to eat. But, I do believe that there are also other ways to overcome the money factor. 
  1. Be honest about your current finance status, especially the males. It will be unreasonable if things have gone south and you are still footing bills for your girlfriend. Girlfriends, be understand, it not a must for boyfriend to foot your bill anyway. 
  2. Home cook food. Romantic! A boyfriend that can cook with you. Home cook food can save you a ton! 
I don't think any relationship will work well without trust. Sometimes we get paranoid or get insecure, that's because the level of trust has fallen. But, trust can be build if the followings are done: 
  1. Consistency.
  2. Being on time.
  3. Promised what you have promised to do.
  4. Be honest.
  5. Be fair, even in an argument.
  6. Be sensitive to the other's feelings. You can still disagree, but don't discount how your partner is feeling.
  7. Never say things you can't take back.
  8. Say NO to digging old wounds. 
  9. Respect.
  10. Don’t be jealous.
  11. Be a good listener.
Like what I have mentioned in my previous post, things wouldn't work out if you were to only read and know, work on them! Be amazed and be enchanted by what you can do! 

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