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Here are the things you only know if you have ever been into a long distance relationship... 

1. The importance of WhatsApp/Skype/ Technology in other words. 

Technically your gadget is your significant other. The first and last thing you do in your day are to reach out for your phone and text your other half. Skype/ LINE (Depending on what you use)  became your best friend. You are always on webcam be it eating or working, because it is the only way to feel each other presence. 

2. Masturbation or maybe sexting.

Not being able to be together physically does not stop you from getting kinky. But, at the same time it sets you thinking, "seriously.. do I have to do it in this manner?" Oh wells, at the end of the day it just feels good.


3. That love-hate relationship with airports.
Saying good-bye is the toughest thing one can ever have, especially day 0. Being able to spend half a day with your significant one and the remaining alone, that feeling.. it so hard to get by. But, they are too your favourite place. You can totally relate to those romantic scenes where he meets her at the airport, she leaps into his arms.

4. A time-zone expert.
You are just so good at it, that your friends are in awed. Yes, you are so good with it that you don't even have to count.

5. What's sleep deprivation? *shrugs*
Spending long hours late into the night just to talk to your significant half from the other time zone is so common that, sleep deprive is your new best friend.

6. Gets jealous of other couples.
Your jealousy mode is switched on whenever you see couple getting physical in the public. The first instinct is to push them apart. Don't you deny.

7. You are so done with your friends' comments.
"You guys won't make it" or " How do you even manage to get through without being physical?" You are just so done with these comments. SO DONE. *roll eyes*

8. Time is your biggest enemy.
You know that feeling when time passes so sloooooowly when its just 3 days till your next meet and having time to speed up when you actually are together. You understand that time is a total biatch.

9. Selfies.
You take selfies to update each other about your life, and you totally enjoy that moment of 'closeness'.

10. Technically your life is 'Dear John'.
Yes. That lead in Dear John depicts your entire relationship so well that you will be saying 'yes' right from the start of the film.

Even though you missed each other constantly, you know it deep down in your heart that "it will work, distance isn't gonna break us apart."

1. Please and Thank You’s
Basic manners are almost obsolete when people are either stressed or in a hurry trying to keep up with the hustle and bustle of life. Be sure to say thank you the next time someone holds the door open for you as remembering to extend politeness is an efficient way to appreciate the actions of a stranger.

2. Drop a Dollar or Two
Remember the feeling you get when you find money? It makes you feel lucky and cheerful that you were the one to find it. Try leaving behind a dollar or two on the table before you leave the hawker centre. You might just have thrown more than a little luck across someone who was having a bad day.

3. Compliments
Everyone could do with a little encouragement to feel better about themselves. Give a compliment about a waiter or sales assistant that assisted you to their manager. After all, a sincere appreciation is much more elating when it comes from a stranger.

4. Give Up Your Seat
Common civility obligates us to give up our seat to those who need it more. A student with a heavy backpack could be yearning for a seat in a crowded train or bus. So, go the extra mile by giving up your seat to someone, not just for those it is specially reserved for.

5. Smile
It may only take a few muscles to smile but never the underestimate its impact. Share a smile with a stranger. It could be with someone who walks the same route as you or those who often go unnoticed, such as cleaners.

Now, it's your turn to spread the kindness around you. #bethetrendstarter. 

Rest and Rise Early.

Ever had the feeling of getting not enough sleep? I feel you, it awful. Lack of sleep makes you stupid, fat, and even kill your brain cells. Not funny. For myself, I find it pretty pointless to keep on working when my brain isn't functioning anymore. When things like this happened I will choose to turn in over working on my projects. 

Sometimes work can get a little overdose that you really have to complete the work, so my suggestion is wake up real early. Like 3am or even 4am in the morning to get your things done! I have done that before during my major exams, surprisingly I have studied a lot more compared to the night before! 

Firewall. 

Are you on Facebook or YouTube now? Yes. My Facebook is sitting right at the top of the browser now. I find it harder and harder not to have this particular and addictive tab off my browser as I grow older. So you can actually set Firewall on your browser to help yourself stay away from the distracting social media. 

Goals and Be Discipline. 

Probably one of the most duh tips here. You know it, but you just fail to be do it. You just have to get things started! 

What will you do to keep your productivity running through the day? Share with me in the comment box below! 

I read somewhere online that stretching for 5-10 minutes can actually stimulate nervous systems and muscle which make you more aware of your surroundings. Since it's really hard for me to leave my bed every morning, so stretching actually give me an excuse to stay on my bed a little longer. Hehe. 

Draw Curtains. (If you wake up after the sun rises)

Drawing your curtains allow sun rays to enter your bedroom, and this allows your body to be more aware that it's already morning. But it's totally inapplicable to me, since I wake way before the sun rises. Fret not, go on to the next point. 

Hot bath. 

It so refreshing to get a hot bath in the morning, not showers. I usually take a 5-10 mins hot bath every morning. Its an instant wake. 

Pop Music.

Recently, I have become a user of Spotify and I totally fell in love with the app. There's is this Mood Booster Radio which plays all the Pop music, and I would always put it on my speaker every morning. It hypes me up, and get my adrenaline running. 

I would love to hear how you make your morning better! Share your morning rituals with me in the comment box below! 

Many times we fail our interviews wasn't because of our talents but the way we presented ourselves during the interview session. In order to succeed  interviews, we have to think about how we can play our strengths and weaknesses to our greatest advantage, without lying or saying the obvious. I used to think it was impossible to show my strength in an impressive manner. But... after years of crashing against the wall, I found it. 

Brainstorm.

If you are thinking about what the company needs, I am telling you now, STOP. That's not what you need to think of now. Take a piece of white paper, think about what you have done, from reliable ones to the problem solving ones, pen the strengths down on the paper. Then from there pick a few from that pool, always think about the skills and strengths you have. What the company wants its not a pleaser, so don't just show the side where you think the company needs. You never know your other strengths may surprise them. 

Which one should I take? 

Stare into that piece of paper again, looking at the pool of strengths, choose up to 5 strengths that can differentiate yourself from the others. Not recommended to show off the "frequently used" strengths, naming a few like positive, determination. You could try to alter or try using other descriptive words like: optimistic, task oriented. Of course, having an example would make you differentiate yourself from the others too! 

Storytelling. 

Crafting stories ain't my niche, but I love listening to stories. Yes! Human beings love to butt our nose into other people's life and we love stories! This is the time where you think about the company's values and how your strengths fit the company. It's no doubt that your interviewers want to know about your professional experiences, but don't leave your personal experience out of the story. They are interested about your personality and your personal life too. 

Be Proud! 

Strengths a not something you should be ashamed off! Be proud of your strength, but I am not telling you to be stark up. Tell your interviewer your strengths in confidence, and back them up with relevant experiences, I am sure you will be fine! 

There isn't a shortcut in finding your strengths. It definitely requires you to think deep and question yourself about how you can fit your strength to the applied job. Cocky won't get you anywhere, instead, be confident in presenting yourself, put a smile on your face and show exactly what you want to tell your interviewer. You will be fine. 

All the best for your interview! 

It made me realise something. Many of us, including myself, are trying very hard to fit into the society. Working towards the 'ideal' self to please a certain group of people, and then at the end of the day I was worn out. Honestly, I thought I would be cheering if I manage to be that ideal person. I have never expected myself to be sick and tired about life. 

Now, I have two words for you.... BE YOUSELF. Comfort, Security, Discovery, Voice can be found at where we began our journey. It is easy for us to lose ourselves in our dreams and expectations. We need to accept the fact that being ourselves, being true is what we really want. 

With that we need to trust ourselves, the trust to know what we want, what we believe in and what we see. Listen to our guts, learn to forgive and learn to trust. 

You don't have to chase upon that 'dream' person because someone said you must be that, believe me you will never be able to fulfil his or her expectations. It's tiring to be someone you don't know. Believe in yourself and be yourself. 

You will be able to find your strength, your limits and lastly that hidden confidence in you. Stop chasing trends and play safe. You already knew what you wanted and you knew where you really want to go. So, have faith in yourself. Let it go and make it happen.

Have a great week ahead! 

It's a start of a new week, maybe not that new, but it's still Tuesday so just treat it as new. A new week means new chances. Even if you made a serious mess last week, here's another shot to do it again, and you know you will do it better! 

I think. As woman (and welcome men if you are reading too), we are born to compete with each other don't you think so? As far as my memory can bring me back, I was told by a teacher, 'Write like Celine.' and subconsciously I thought, 'Celine is doing better than me, I have to write like Celine'. Like a spoilt radio, it stuck. 

If we were to look back, there are tons of moments in our lives where we place ourselves next to another person. All of a sudden, it makes us feel less or even insignificant. 

Why do we need to do that? Even if someone else or even someone close to you are doing well, doesn't mean you are doing badly. That just meant your success hasn't land upon you, and it will. 

Here's a mission for you. This week, if you were to know someone that has good news or does really well at something, cheer for them. Take that as a motivation and work hard, soon others will feel happy for you too! Don't resent, or begrudge. You will be able to do it! 

Good Night!

Communication

Honestly, I do not agree that money is a big factor in relationship. I do know that Singapore has thousands or maybe billions of food to eat. But, I do believe that there are also other ways to overcome the money factor. 

1. Be honest about your current finance status, especially the males. It will be unreasonable if things have gone south and you are still footing bills for your girlfriend. Girlfriends, be understand, it not a must for boyfriend to foot your bill anyway. 
2. Home cook food. Romantic! A boyfriend that can cook with you. Home cook food can save you a ton! 

I don't think any relationship will work well without trust. Sometimes we get paranoid or get insecure, that's because the level of trust has fallen. But, trust can be build if the followings are done: 

1. Consistency.
2. Being on time.
3. Promised what you have promised to do.
4. Be honest.
5. Be fair, even in an argument.
6. Be sensitive to the other's feelings. You can still disagree, but don't discount how your partner is feeling.
7. Never say things you can't take back.
8. Say NO to digging old wounds. 
9. Respect.
10. Don’t be jealous.
11. Be a good listener.

Like what I have mentioned in my previous post, things wouldn't work out if you were to only read and know, work on them! Be amazed and be enchanted by what you can do! 

In fact, failures isn't that bad after all, but is a matter on how you handle them. Failures are frequently accompanied with wonderful and amazing lessons that one can learn from. Even so, I always remind myself that "No more second time." Here's how I manage my failures and making sure history doesn't repeats itself. 

Acceptance.

Yes, accept your failures gracefully. Just accept it that things don't work out, there's nothing you can do. Falling into depression, crying your lungs out would not change the fact that you have failed, nothing is gonna make it better. Wholeheartedly accept your failures, have some hysterical moment, and then move on. 

Reflect.

After you have take the edge off, don't walk away with your failures blindly. Never ever walk off without reflecting what went wrong. Maybe you worked with the wrong team mates, or maybe things ain't in your favour. Whatever it maybe, be sure what actually went wrong so you can prevent the same mistakes twice. 

Change.

Knowing what on earth went wrong, don't just "yea, I know it." and stick to your old habits. That's not gonna work. Question yourself on how you can actually make things better, or if similar situations were to appear again how would you settle it. Like I said, failing isn't that bad, but when failing again is. 

Discover. 

This is something I really love. Every time I failed, I discover treasure. Through these horrible failures, I can actually discover my strength, my weakness, and gain experiences that my peers might not have. Discovering this treasure is much more challenging than reflecting upon your failures and changing them, it takes courage. Some failures can be really really painful, but I can assure you that there is always a beautiful lesson to be learnt.

Embrace. 

Just keep in mind that we are human, we make mistakes. I understand that perfectionist are gonna take a bit of time to digest that sentence. Nobody is gonna stop you for being hard on yourself, but bear in mind that we are humans too. 

Lastly, work on them. You will not fail gracefully if you only were to digest them. During the process I get bruised, scratched, fractured or even broken. In fact, these failures mould who am I today, it pushes me forward. You may fail to fail gracefully and hurt yourself at first, but the way you handle your failures will either make you stronger or break you. 

Have courage, and master the art of failing gracefully. You are stronger than you think, you will be amazed by that. 

There isn't any hidden agenda in my title, this series aims to build a better life for you and me. Life can be really hard on us, things may not flow the way it would. You never expect the unexpected, you trust and hope has gradually left you and sometimes, we lost our way in life.